Wednesday, March 23, 2011
I was perusing my latest copy of Above Rubies and was stopped in my tracks by an article entitled "Quintessentially Feminine". From the time I was a child, I have aspired toward femininity. I don't mean dress, necessarily, but rather the character of femininity. In my mind, the word "feminine" embodies all that is gentle, all that is nurturing, all that is wholesome. It seems to me that the world has high-jacked femininity and replaced it with "prissy" or "girly", neither of which suit me in the slightest. Prissy and girly seem to describe the outward appearance while feminine describes the inward character.
Gentleness is a character quality I long to cultivate. As so beautifully illustrated in 1 Peter, I would love to be a woman known for "the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight". Not only is a quiet and gentle spirit of great value to God, it is of great value to a husband. What husband would choose an abrasive, nagging wife over a wife whose lips "dripped with honey" (Song of Songs)? Shakespeare said, "Her voice was ever soft, gentle and low, an excellent thing in a woman". That is what I want to be - an excellent woman.
As I cultivate Quintessential Femininity, I will learn to speak encouragements to my husband and my children. I will learn to manage my home so that it is a restful place, a place of sweet fellowship and refuge. I will become a wife whose lips drip honey, both sweet and nourishing. I will learn to be quintessentially feminine.