Don't say anything at all. I thought our mothers taught us these principles as children. Apparently I was wrong.
Recently, an anonymous commented has been lambasting me and our lifestyle, indicating that we were harming our children by living an unwise lifestyle. They attributed all of our perceived difficulties to poor decision making and self-inflicted hardships.
I am done accepting such ill-mannered critiques. I have patiently endured unkind remarks for years, knowing the commenter was angry or misunderstood my intent. No more. If you don't have anything nice to say - don't say anything at all!
I have often marveled at the drivel some people pass off as acceptable under the guise of "speaking the truth", when in fact they are being rude. I have decided that in the future, if an anonymous commenter says something I wouldn't allow my children or myself to say, I will no longer publish it on my blog. If you don't like what I have to say - please don't read what I write.